BEAUTIFUL YOU

Dear Sister,
In 2018, work on yourself! What are those areas you need to fix.... Do it!
Being single is an edge! You still have the opportunity to get it right.... You still have the opportunity to learn and unlearn.... You still have the opportunity to be better.... You have a choice darling! You do!
Don't wait till you are married... Your husband has so much work to do to meet you crude!!
Let him meet you flourishing! He doesn't have to come and work on you.... Let him. Meet you working on yourself.
Choose to be better lady.... Choose to be!!!
Don't be an extra-work for him. Let him meet a woman who already has a moving and living vision.
He shouldn't teach you to set goals for yourself.... You are a goal-getter already!!! Be better beloved! Get better! And in all thy getting..... Get wiser!!!!
You are well-mannered and cultured!!!! Slaying in the kitchen and home management. What a woman you are..... Never forget
Never forget you are a great woman ... Special..... Powerful...... Sweet and of course a wise woman!!!!
You are not just amazing...you are a spiritual woman. A specialist in healings... A specialist in working miracles..... A specialist in the supernatural... You speak in tongues..... You can pray.... You know sound doctrine..... Kai!!!! You are blessed!!!
Let him always see you and be grateful for the gift of you that he is blessed with
I make a toast tonight to the beautiful you😘😘😘😘

WHAT YOU APPRECIATE, APPRECIATES.

What You Appreciate, Appreciates.

His lord said unto him, well done,
good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful
over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.
Matthew 25:23

Take therefore the talent from him, and give it unto him which hath ten talents. For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath.
Matthew 25:28-29

This month I am looking at all the things that make up “gratitude.” Gratitude is more than being thankful, and it’s more than knowing you have more than what you “deserve.” Gratitude flows from a person’s heart when they see the good in God’s character, the good in themselves, and the good in others. Gratitude is based in God’s grace.

The key to having gratitude is that we look for what is right, and appreciate it. That’s why the Word of God says in Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

The word “appreciate” has two meanings:

To be thankful or show gratitude

To raise or increase in value

I want you to think of everything you criticize regularly. I mean everything! Is it your car, your home, your quirky personality, your own body? Is it your coworkers, your children, your spouse, your boss, your in-laws? Think of the things you criticize regularly, and you will see where you have failed to appreciate or find value.

The moment you participate in the “depreciation” process, you stop valuing. That is the moment you block your ability to experience gratefulness and ultimately abundance.

What you don’t recognize will eventually exit your life. Whatever you recognize as valuable and celebrate will also appreciate. Anything unrecognized remains uncelebrated; whether it’s a gift, a miracle, or a person.

The currency of the kingdom is in relationships. Too often God sends people into our lives who are interested in us, want to bless us, and care about us with the love of God, but they go unrecognized and unappreciated. When we lose those people, we lose opportunities, valuable allies, and sources of blessing and support. But whatever you recognize as valuable and celebrate will appreciate and thrive in your life!

Sometimes, God will send us a “Jonathan.” A “Jonathan” is a long-term relationship designed ultimately to bring us into our destiny. A clear sign of a Jonathan is that God supernaturally places a desire in that person’s heart to bless you. They have so much joy in blessing you, they ask for nothing in return. They just want to bless you!

Familiarity towards these God-given vessels of blessing can be fatal. It’s where you begin to take things for granted. It’s when you go through life unaware of the multitudes of blessings and gifts that are here each and every moment.

Gratitude flows from a person’s heart when they see the good in God’s character, the good in themselves, and the good in others. The key to having gratitude is that we look for what is right, and appreciate it. Abundance is birthed when we appreciate the people, gifts and miracles placed in our lives. Magnify the blessings of God – so that He may trust you with more!

God bless you.
I love you

Oluwaseun Anikeola Komolafe

THE SCHOOL CALLED MARRIAGE !

THE SCHOOL CALLED MARRIAGE!

Marriage is the only school where you get the Certificate before you start.

It's also a school where you will never graduate.

It's a school without a break or a free period.

It's a school where no one is allowed to drop out.

It's a school you will have to attend every day of your life.

It's a school where there is no sick leave or holidays.

It's a school founded by God:

1.On the foundation of love.

2.The walls are made out of trust.

3.The door made out of acceptance.

4.The windows made out of understanding

5.The furniture made out of blessings

6.The roof made out of faith.

Be reminded that you are just a student not the principal.

God is the only Principal.

Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run outside.

Keep in mind that, this school is the safest place to be.

Never go to sleep before completing your
assignments for the day.

Never forget the C-word...Communicate.

Communicate with your classmate and with the Principal.

If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate,

Remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate,

God is not finished with him/her yet.

So take it as a challenge and work on it together.

Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main textbook of this school).

Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way.

Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to.

When tempted to quit find courage and continue.

Some tests and exams may be tough but remember,

the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet

it's a school better than any other.

It's one of the best schools on earth;

joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day.

Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject.

After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it.

To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all.

Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse.
More grace from God.

LIFE LESSONS TO LEARN.

It just so happened that as my sister was getting married on Dec 16th I was marking my 10th wedding anniversary on the same day. My father in-law too Mr G.N Agomo was marking his 44th anniversary.

Top 10 things I've learnt in 10years of being married:

1. Marriage is as beautiful as you're willing to make it - God's grace is available so its up to you to work out your marriage's salvation with love and patience. Pray, play and plan together.

2. It's better to go with what you know than what you feel-- Feelings are fluid and erratic. Sometimes I'm so much in love I'm literally floating and I feel like even giving her things I don't own like the Central Bank or an oil well. Other times I'm so pissed off I feel like locking her up in the deep freezer for 7 days with bags of cement on top it (yeah she's so hot it wld take that long for her to start to freeze). But when you have settled it in your heart that you love and care about her, this knowledge makes it easy to face moments of uncertainty and navigate through contention TOGETHER.

3. Love still trumps hate--Put ur foot down without being a bully, tyrant or aggressor. When things go wrong be eager to put them right. Don't always wait to receive an apology.

4. Respect yourself--No need to demand respect from your wife. Simply respect yourself at all times and in all things. When it comes to money, school fees, bills, the kids, socializing, distractions, your devotion to God, extended family, your work n hustle, brother respect yourself. Hers will be a natural consequence.

5. Break the routine--Boredom, frustration, dissatisfaction, irritation and strife are all brothers. Their senior cousins are mischief, straying and high-tech 4G lying . They all have each other on speed dial. So don't quench the spirit. Change things every now and den. Be refreshing, even a computer needs to be refreshed so it doesn't hang. Throw those pots and cutleries away. Burn those curtains and bedsheets. Give out those pile of clothes. And change ur parade in the ozza room too.

6. Your phone and gadgets. Life and death are in those devices. Guard your phone with all diligence for out of it.....Your phone is like an airport. All manner of people arrive there. Its up to you to decide who goes through and what "baggage" gets in. Help yourself. Save yourself. Be wise. Be smart but not cunning. Filter filth. Don't allow anything you cannot explain without stammering.

7. Her first. She shld have absolute confidence that at a moment's notice you'd always give up yourself for her. She's your soul n sole mate. If she has questions and doubts about this, you still have work to do. Keep at it. Nobody is perfect. Acknowledge and accept your flaws and do same for her. Her flaws shouldn't be a weapon in ur arsenal. Being a builder, a booster, a repairer, a cheerleader is the way to go.

8. Your kids. Give them all the attention required and tell them you love them very often even though our parents didnt vocalize their love for us. They took it for granted that we knew. Well kids need to hear it repeatedly. Nothing builds their confidence more than being constantly reassured of your unconditional love for them. The added bonus is that your wife would love you more. Ive heard it said that while the way to a man's heart is his stomach (tho not in my case, my wife has long given up on trying to pass through the kitchen to my heart), the way to a mother's heart is her children.

9. Attention attention attention. Its like cocaine. Women get high on it. Genuinely load her with it, lots of it and its not hard at all. Its your get-out-of-jail card.

10. We are a team. I'm not the Holy Spirit and therefore cannot be all over the field at the same time. Leaning and relying on each other is a beautiful thing.

All of this ofcus wouldn't matter if you're married to Lucifer's cousin/apprentice cus na so so daily unprovoked bulala plus koboko u go dey chop. Thankfully I'm married to Jesus's favorite sister.

In conclusion, my wife is a reference point. She's a city on a hill. Im the hill and she's my crown jewel. 10years in the bag. Many more to go till we leave here to go marry Jesus over there.

I love her. She knows it, my girls know it, heaven knows and endorses it.

Merry Christmas again.

THE POWER OF THE RIGHT WOMAN.

THE POWER OF THE RIGHT WOMAN...

That epic moment in history, when President Obama publicly acknowledged his wife Michelle, for standing by him when he could not pay his tuition in law school... was the moment I fully appreciated the need to choose the right woman. President Obama further publicly admitted that he would NOT be where he is today, if it were not for Michelle.

This among many other examples goes to show that the Woman that a Man picks as a mate will either shoot him into his great destiny or pull him into hardship!

Listen... it is extremely easy to find a woman who can pressure a man to draw up a marvellously grand wedding plan, but only the right woman can challenge a man to draw up a business plan.

Once you study the lives of many great men of History, from Winston Churchill to Abraham Lincoln, from Nelson Mandela to Martin Luther King Junior all the way to Jerry John Rawlings... you come to the realisation that; No matter how strong a Man is, he is only as strong as the Woman he marries”

BENEFITS OF PRAYER.

14 Benefits to talking with God.

  Prayer helps us be wise stewards of time because it:

·        Provides timely direction.

·        Prevents wrong decisions.

·        Eliminates worry and anxiety.

·        Produces peacefulness.

·        Invites God into our activity.

·        Produces confidence.

·        Eliminates fretting.

·        Sharpens discernment.

·        Gives us energy.

·        Prevents distractions.

·        Reminds us to act now.

·        Protects us from discouragement.

·        Opens doors of opportunity.

·        Helps us discern between busyness and fruitfulness.

Which of these benefits do you need the most? Spend less time wrestling with the hours in your day and make it your goal to pray first. You’ll see your priorities fall into place, feel your spirit lighten from under the burden of diminishing time, and experience a peace that comes with spending every moment in the presence and under the guidance of your heavenly Father.

Halleluyah.....for me, I have cast myself on GOD to fix me and handle me. He is my builder... there is no me with GOD.

5 ways to be a blessing to others.

Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. ~Philippians 2:4

When you feel down and depressed, take your eyes off your own situation and set them on those around you. It may be hard to do, but I’ve learned that the best way to forget your own ‘problems’ is to help someone else with theirs.

Notice the needs of those God has set in your path. Pray about ways of solving someone else’s problems. Pray to be a source of constant encouragement and a blessing to others.

There is good in every darkness, and there are countless ways we’re given the chance to help. How do we do this? We lift others up. We compliment them. We let them know we love them. 

“It’s not enough to simply feel love. We have to show it. We have to express it. Love is not love until we give it away…and we should be giving it away at every opportunity.”

Here are 5 ways to be a blessing to others:

1. Pray For Someone. -Talking to God on another’s behalf can move major mountains. We can be pretty selfish sometimes  when it comes to prayer. It is not uncommon for our personal prayers to be quite self-centered. Interceding for others forces us to take our minds off of ourselves and turn them to others.

2. Just listen.– Sometimes all someone needs is for someone else to listen to them. They just need someone to talk to and confide in. Someone who will listen without judging. You’d be surprised  to know how many people take their own lives each year because they feel so alone, hopeless, or misunderstood.

3. Offer words of encouragement. -Simply encouraging others to keep on keeping on can be more of a help than you might think. There is not a day that goes by that we couldn’t benefit from some encouragement. Some days more than others. Sometimes we just need to hear someone else say “It’s going to be alright”.

4. Give.– Know someone in a financial crisis? Give a financial gift. Of course prayer works and sure you can sit and listen to their problems all day, but if you are able, do more than that. Give! God’s blessings to us are not meant to end with us. His desire is that they filter down to others. This principle applies in all areas of our lives, including finances.

Fundraising, Donating funds, or new/used goods can go a long way. What may be pennies to you, may be a meal for someone else. What may be trash to you, may be someone else’s treasure. Don’t let the size of your gift keep you from giving. The most important thing is that you give from your heart.

5. Volunteer. With budget cuts, now more than ever volunteers are needed in every area. Orphanages, Senior citizen homes, Homeless shelters … can all use a helping hand. It won’t cost you a thing. Just an hour or two of your time will make an impact on someone for a lifetime.

Just look at His extravagant promise “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that always having all sufficiency in everything, you may have an abundance for every good deed” (emphasis added). Now, that’s a verse to claim as your own! Sharing our blessings with others will never lead to deprivation. In fact, the Lord promises to increase the harvest of our righteousness and enrich us in everything in response to our generosity. We can never outgive God.

A hoarded blessing is never enjoyed as richly as a shared one. Using your gift to meet someone else’s need glorifies God by demonstrating His grace at work in your life. Don’t let His generous provisions end with you. Pass them on and discover the joy of a never-ending cycle of blessings.

Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. ~Matthew 5:16