SUBMISSION.

My Greatly Beloved Ladies out there, here’s the thing, the question isn’t whether or not women are equal to men. That’s simple.

The Bible reminds us that men and women are equal when it says, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” – Galatians 3:28

Let’s start asking the tough questions–are you willing to submit to your husband according to the will of God? Are you willing to let your husband lead your family in accordance with God’s will?

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Ephesians 5:22-23

One of the most beautiful friendships recorded in history was that of David and Jonathan. 1 Samuel chapter 18 tells us that that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. (v. 1)

Jonathan had every reason to dislike David. He was heir to the throne. He knew that David would be wearing the crown that was intended for him. David was getting all the attention he wasn’t. But rather than be jealous or fearful, demanding or proud, Jonathan stepped aside to serve David as his lord and king.

He stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle. (v. 4)

This was a symbol of their covenant. Jonathan stripped himself of everything to become a servant.

Before, you irrationally would take a decision, kindly take a look to the scripture and gently reminded of this,

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 1 Peter 3:5-6

Sarah stepped down for the good of her marriage. Taking on the form of a servant, she allowed her husband to lead.

This isn’t about equality of men and women. Jonathan was equal to David in every way–even more so because he was in line for the throne. Jonathan recognized the fact that God chose David to be a leader. He was humble enough to step down when he could have stepped up.

In the New Testament we see that Jesus stripped Himself of everything and took upon Himself the form of a servant, which led to the cross.

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: but made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: and being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. – Philippians 2:5-8, KJV

Was Jesus equal with God? Absolutely. But the will of The Father was more important to Him than equality was. The NIV words it this way, “[Jesus] did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage.”

With that in mind, let’s close with this thought. The next time you’re angry stop for a minute and ask yourself, is my right to be angry more important than my desire to follow God’s will? Is my equality more important than God’s will for my marriage?

And finally ask yourself this. How can I be an encouraging wife? How can I encourage my husband to lead?

2 IMPORTANT INGREDIENTS FOR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIPS.

Opening my Bible I read a warning to women. This gentle advice, packed with wisdom and grace, is timeless and true:

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. – 1 Peter 3:1-4

Looking to the Greek, I see the word, “Kosmos.”

“Whose [kosmos] let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair…”

Interestingly, this same word is translated as “world” 186 times elsewhere in the Bible. This is the one and only time it’s translated as “adorning.”

Digging deeper, we get a better understanding of the word, “kosmos.” Strong’s concordance (G2889) defines it as a harmonious arrangement. It also defines it as the arrangement of the stars, the ‘heavenly hosts’ as the ornaments of heaven.

A harmonious arrangement is a beautiful sight. There must be an order to our lives that brings glory to God. Our hearts must shine brighter than our appearance ever could.

If you’re slipping into the latest fashions, and your hair looks like the pages of Pinterest, but you’re not gentle and kind to your husband, you have a heart problem that can’t be concealed with lipstick.

We need to ensure that the cup is clean on the inside, before we’re concerned with the outside.

Peter talks about two things that are of great price to the Lord. These must be at the center of our hearts, our home, and our marriage at all times.

Meekness
A meek person isn’t self-seeking. She’s Christ seeking. She walks away from injustice believing in the wisdom and sovereignty of God. She is strength under control, not by her own will but by the power of the Holy Spirit.

A Quiet Spirit
A quiet spirit is sometimes paired with the word “peaceable.” She doesn’t stir up trouble and knows how to stay calm under pressure. She’s non-confrontational, easy going, and even tempered.

I say “she” here because I’m talking to women, and because Peter addresses women in this portion of scripture, but these are qualities that both men and women alike should strive for. Marriages would be stronger, if our emotions were under control, if we trusted in God’s plan for our lives, and if we strived to be gentle and kind.

The thing is, we can’t change the world and we can’t change our spouse, but we can allow God to start changing us.

You are loved by an Almighty God

FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED

FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED
FOR OUR MEN:
Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she simply wants you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say "I am sorry for the argument".
That's women for you. Every brother needs to study in the university of women before getting married, read books about them, learn what the Bible says about them and you will hardly have a problem with them.
Though there may still be some challenges, because you're both from different background and your imperfections are bound to stand.
So, read books about marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, importance of marriage and the likes. Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems.
How many men can tolerate their wives nagging let alone shouting? It's said that, you should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water.
Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally, she is just playing with you, if she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake?
As a man learn to ignore some things, don't be petty. Some men are feminist; Do "hide and seek" with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the house, even if she is teasing you.
Assist her in the house chores, pound yam, fetch water, don't make her look like your maid. Bathe together, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how to cook. Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a feminine duty.
Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her at times, call her from work/ school, text her, write "I love you" in a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom or in her cosmetics box or inside her cupboard. Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play with her hair. Always tell her, she's beautiful and that you're happy to have her as your partner.
All these are part of being romantic...When a woman tells you that you are not romantic. It means you are not doing all these things, its not the romance in the bedroom she is talking about. That's why, you brothers have to study "women's language" it's a 10 year course.
FOR LADIES:
It is part of your duty to be romantic too. Your shyness shouldn't get to your marital life and that doesn't mean you should be shy to express your love to your husband.
Send sweet text messages to your husband at work, sometimes even if you are in the room discussing with your husband, still be chatting with him on social media (Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo, bbm etc) even though he is right in front of you, it's fun and romantic! Discuss how lovely he is on your facebook timeline, this will trip him a lot.
You should be chatting with your husband, not other men on social media networks.
Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him the biggest meat. At times, bake cake for him to surprise him. Ladies, use your soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like (twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart).
Sing poems for him, no shyness is allowed. Don't just be welcoming your husband with an angry face because there is no money in the house, God is our provider. Don't welcome your husband with your body smelling maggi, don't only play with your husband when he receives his salary.
Welcome him with a warm hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to keep him safe and for him to be successful. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him, it's not easy to be a man, when you see his faith waxing cold, encourage him, don't threaten him that you will seek for divorce, don't compare him with other men, buy him gifts, wash his clothes, sing for him, praise him in a way that he wouldn't think of an alternative, be the best cook, wash his car if u have the time, dress him up, pamper him when he is sick.
Wake him with a peck and don't complain about his snoring habit.
Let kiss be the messenger between you. Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from what you see in movies..
Most of what you see there are not real. Call your husband pet names. Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 30yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable with it.
Remember that, God said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage.
To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out you still care for that person.
Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3: one for yourself (sleeping), one for your wife and one for your God ... That's the best night one can ever have.
LOVE MAKING IS ONLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE. IF U CAN'T HOLD BACK, PLZ GET MARRIED.
I WISH YOU LOVE.

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