BENEFITS OF PRAYER.

14 Benefits to talking with God.

  Prayer helps us be wise stewards of time because it:

·        Provides timely direction.

·        Prevents wrong decisions.

·        Eliminates worry and anxiety.

·        Produces peacefulness.

·        Invites God into our activity.

·        Produces confidence.

·        Eliminates fretting.

·        Sharpens discernment.

·        Gives us energy.

·        Prevents distractions.

·        Reminds us to act now.

·        Protects us from discouragement.

·        Opens doors of opportunity.

·        Helps us discern between busyness and fruitfulness.

Which of these benefits do you need the most? Spend less time wrestling with the hours in your day and make it your goal to pray first. You’ll see your priorities fall into place, feel your spirit lighten from under the burden of diminishing time, and experience a peace that comes with spending every moment in the presence and under the guidance of your heavenly Father.

Halleluyah.....for me, I have cast myself on GOD to fix me and handle me. He is my builder... there is no me with GOD.

5 ways to be a blessing to others.

Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. ~Philippians 2:4

When you feel down and depressed, take your eyes off your own situation and set them on those around you. It may be hard to do, but I’ve learned that the best way to forget your own ‘problems’ is to help someone else with theirs.

Notice the needs of those God has set in your path. Pray about ways of solving someone else’s problems. Pray to be a source of constant encouragement and a blessing to others.

There is good in every darkness, and there are countless ways we’re given the chance to help. How do we do this? We lift others up. We compliment them. We let them know we love them. 

“It’s not enough to simply feel love. We have to show it. We have to express it. Love is not love until we give it away…and we should be giving it away at every opportunity.”

Here are 5 ways to be a blessing to others:

1. Pray For Someone. -Talking to God on another’s behalf can move major mountains. We can be pretty selfish sometimes  when it comes to prayer. It is not uncommon for our personal prayers to be quite self-centered. Interceding for others forces us to take our minds off of ourselves and turn them to others.

2. Just listen.– Sometimes all someone needs is for someone else to listen to them. They just need someone to talk to and confide in. Someone who will listen without judging. You’d be surprised  to know how many people take their own lives each year because they feel so alone, hopeless, or misunderstood.

3. Offer words of encouragement. -Simply encouraging others to keep on keeping on can be more of a help than you might think. There is not a day that goes by that we couldn’t benefit from some encouragement. Some days more than others. Sometimes we just need to hear someone else say “It’s going to be alright”.

4. Give.– Know someone in a financial crisis? Give a financial gift. Of course prayer works and sure you can sit and listen to their problems all day, but if you are able, do more than that. Give! God’s blessings to us are not meant to end with us. His desire is that they filter down to others. This principle applies in all areas of our lives, including finances.

Fundraising, Donating funds, or new/used goods can go a long way. What may be pennies to you, may be a meal for someone else. What may be trash to you, may be someone else’s treasure. Don’t let the size of your gift keep you from giving. The most important thing is that you give from your heart.

5. Volunteer. With budget cuts, now more than ever volunteers are needed in every area. Orphanages, Senior citizen homes, Homeless shelters … can all use a helping hand. It won’t cost you a thing. Just an hour or two of your time will make an impact on someone for a lifetime.

Just look at His extravagant promise “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that always having all sufficiency in everything, you may have an abundance for every good deed” (emphasis added). Now, that’s a verse to claim as your own! Sharing our blessings with others will never lead to deprivation. In fact, the Lord promises to increase the harvest of our righteousness and enrich us in everything in response to our generosity. We can never outgive God.

A hoarded blessing is never enjoyed as richly as a shared one. Using your gift to meet someone else’s need glorifies God by demonstrating His grace at work in your life. Don’t let His generous provisions end with you. Pass them on and discover the joy of a never-ending cycle of blessings.

Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. ~Matthew 5:16

How to Love Your Wife According to the Bible.

How to Love Your Wife According to the Bible

Did you know that there are Biblical commands for husbands? Husbands have responsibilities to love and honor their wives. Would you like to be a husband who loves his wife as Christ loved the Church? Here are some tips on how to do so.

Steps

1) "Love your wife as Christ loved the Church."(Ephesians 5:25) This means that you should be willing to risk your life to help or save your wife. Christ's love for the church is without limits; nothing is held back. He gave His life for the church - before we loved Him; His love is unconditional. love your wife as a service--as giving your love. Loving your wife is to be your primary ministry as a husband.

2) "Love your wife in the same way that you love your body and your life."(Ephesians 5:28-33) You care for your body daily. You try to be as well fed and healthy as is possible. You quickly take care of any needs or desires that you may have. Any sexual desire as a husband should be cared for with your wife. In the same way, care for your wife's needs and well being. Feel your wife's pain and illnesses and rejoice in her health and happiness as if it were your own life. A husband must see his wife's sexual desires and make supreme efforts to meet those needs too. Basically, her needs or desires, whether they are financial, physical, emotional or spiritual, must receive your full attention. In this way, you can love her and provide for her, just as much as you do for yourself.

3) "Be considerate as you live with your wife, with respect ..."(I Peter 3:7) The Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! To be considerate means to quit any irritating habits! When she needs to be helped with carrying heavy items, do it! If she needs time to herself, take care of the children for her for a bit! Help your wife in any way you can. Show your love to her and always be considerate of her needs and wants. Pray and ask God to show you where you may be inconsiderate.
4) "Do not be harsh with your wife."(Colossians 3:19) Women are a lot more sensitive than men, so realize that harsh words, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply affect your wife. Rejoice that she is a lady and isn't like you. Remember that she is a precious gift that God has given you and always be thankful for her.
5) "The husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife."(I Corinthians 7:3-5) Please your wife physically. Don't deprive her of what she needs. Sexual pleasure is something that is given, not forced or taken. Discuss with her what her needs are both inside and outside of the bedroom.

6) "Rejoice in your wife all your life. Let her body satisfy you. Be captivated with her."(Proverbs 5:18-19) No man should look at other women, or pictures of other women, when he has a wife on whom he can gaze daily. A husband should become fully satisfied with his wife's body. No matter what the size or shape, if a man will try, and ask God to help him, he can grow to truly find his wife's body to be the most attractive in the world. This is the true spirit of being captivated with your wife. If you show that you are attracted to her, she will feel sexy and lady-like.

7) "Call your wife 'blessed' and praise her."(Proverbs 31:28-29) Tell her that she is special and that she is greater than any other woman on earth. Don't just mention her physical beauty, but compliment her on her care for you, her hard work, and her lady-like attributes. Watch the flower of your wife's heart blossom as you repeatedly fill her ears with your praises. She longs for those words and she wants to hear them from you! You may not want to cause her to be too prideful, but your wife needs and longs to be treasured by you.

8) "Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body."(Song of Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8)

SUBMISSION.

My Greatly Beloved Ladies out there, here’s the thing, the question isn’t whether or not women are equal to men. That’s simple.

The Bible reminds us that men and women are equal when it says, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” – Galatians 3:28

Let’s start asking the tough questions–are you willing to submit to your husband according to the will of God? Are you willing to let your husband lead your family in accordance with God’s will?

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Ephesians 5:22-23

One of the most beautiful friendships recorded in history was that of David and Jonathan. 1 Samuel chapter 18 tells us that that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. (v. 1)

Jonathan had every reason to dislike David. He was heir to the throne. He knew that David would be wearing the crown that was intended for him. David was getting all the attention he wasn’t. But rather than be jealous or fearful, demanding or proud, Jonathan stepped aside to serve David as his lord and king.

He stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle. (v. 4)

This was a symbol of their covenant. Jonathan stripped himself of everything to become a servant.

Before, you irrationally would take a decision, kindly take a look to the scripture and gently reminded of this,

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 1 Peter 3:5-6

Sarah stepped down for the good of her marriage. Taking on the form of a servant, she allowed her husband to lead.

This isn’t about equality of men and women. Jonathan was equal to David in every way–even more so because he was in line for the throne. Jonathan recognized the fact that God chose David to be a leader. He was humble enough to step down when he could have stepped up.

In the New Testament we see that Jesus stripped Himself of everything and took upon Himself the form of a servant, which led to the cross.

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: but made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: and being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. – Philippians 2:5-8, KJV

Was Jesus equal with God? Absolutely. But the will of The Father was more important to Him than equality was. The NIV words it this way, “[Jesus] did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage.”

With that in mind, let’s close with this thought. The next time you’re angry stop for a minute and ask yourself, is my right to be angry more important than my desire to follow God’s will? Is my equality more important than God’s will for my marriage?

And finally ask yourself this. How can I be an encouraging wife? How can I encourage my husband to lead?

2 IMPORTANT INGREDIENTS FOR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIPS.

Opening my Bible I read a warning to women. This gentle advice, packed with wisdom and grace, is timeless and true:

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. – 1 Peter 3:1-4

Looking to the Greek, I see the word, “Kosmos.”

“Whose [kosmos] let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair…”

Interestingly, this same word is translated as “world” 186 times elsewhere in the Bible. This is the one and only time it’s translated as “adorning.”

Digging deeper, we get a better understanding of the word, “kosmos.” Strong’s concordance (G2889) defines it as a harmonious arrangement. It also defines it as the arrangement of the stars, the ‘heavenly hosts’ as the ornaments of heaven.

A harmonious arrangement is a beautiful sight. There must be an order to our lives that brings glory to God. Our hearts must shine brighter than our appearance ever could.

If you’re slipping into the latest fashions, and your hair looks like the pages of Pinterest, but you’re not gentle and kind to your husband, you have a heart problem that can’t be concealed with lipstick.

We need to ensure that the cup is clean on the inside, before we’re concerned with the outside.

Peter talks about two things that are of great price to the Lord. These must be at the center of our hearts, our home, and our marriage at all times.

Meekness
A meek person isn’t self-seeking. She’s Christ seeking. She walks away from injustice believing in the wisdom and sovereignty of God. She is strength under control, not by her own will but by the power of the Holy Spirit.

A Quiet Spirit
A quiet spirit is sometimes paired with the word “peaceable.” She doesn’t stir up trouble and knows how to stay calm under pressure. She’s non-confrontational, easy going, and even tempered.

I say “she” here because I’m talking to women, and because Peter addresses women in this portion of scripture, but these are qualities that both men and women alike should strive for. Marriages would be stronger, if our emotions were under control, if we trusted in God’s plan for our lives, and if we strived to be gentle and kind.

The thing is, we can’t change the world and we can’t change our spouse, but we can allow God to start changing us.

You are loved by an Almighty God

FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED

FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED
FOR OUR MEN:
Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she simply wants you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say "I am sorry for the argument".
That's women for you. Every brother needs to study in the university of women before getting married, read books about them, learn what the Bible says about them and you will hardly have a problem with them.
Though there may still be some challenges, because you're both from different background and your imperfections are bound to stand.
So, read books about marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, importance of marriage and the likes. Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems.
How many men can tolerate their wives nagging let alone shouting? It's said that, you should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water.
Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally, she is just playing with you, if she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake?
As a man learn to ignore some things, don't be petty. Some men are feminist; Do "hide and seek" with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the house, even if she is teasing you.
Assist her in the house chores, pound yam, fetch water, don't make her look like your maid. Bathe together, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how to cook. Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a feminine duty.
Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her at times, call her from work/ school, text her, write "I love you" in a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom or in her cosmetics box or inside her cupboard. Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play with her hair. Always tell her, she's beautiful and that you're happy to have her as your partner.
All these are part of being romantic...When a woman tells you that you are not romantic. It means you are not doing all these things, its not the romance in the bedroom she is talking about. That's why, you brothers have to study "women's language" it's a 10 year course.
FOR LADIES:
It is part of your duty to be romantic too. Your shyness shouldn't get to your marital life and that doesn't mean you should be shy to express your love to your husband.
Send sweet text messages to your husband at work, sometimes even if you are in the room discussing with your husband, still be chatting with him on social media (Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo, bbm etc) even though he is right in front of you, it's fun and romantic! Discuss how lovely he is on your facebook timeline, this will trip him a lot.
You should be chatting with your husband, not other men on social media networks.
Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him the biggest meat. At times, bake cake for him to surprise him. Ladies, use your soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like (twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart).
Sing poems for him, no shyness is allowed. Don't just be welcoming your husband with an angry face because there is no money in the house, God is our provider. Don't welcome your husband with your body smelling maggi, don't only play with your husband when he receives his salary.
Welcome him with a warm hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to keep him safe and for him to be successful. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him, it's not easy to be a man, when you see his faith waxing cold, encourage him, don't threaten him that you will seek for divorce, don't compare him with other men, buy him gifts, wash his clothes, sing for him, praise him in a way that he wouldn't think of an alternative, be the best cook, wash his car if u have the time, dress him up, pamper him when he is sick.
Wake him with a peck and don't complain about his snoring habit.
Let kiss be the messenger between you. Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from what you see in movies..
Most of what you see there are not real. Call your husband pet names. Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 30yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable with it.
Remember that, God said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage.
To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out you still care for that person.
Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3: one for yourself (sleeping), one for your wife and one for your God ... That's the best night one can ever have.
LOVE MAKING IS ONLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE. IF U CAN'T HOLD BACK, PLZ GET MARRIED.
I WISH YOU LOVE.

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